What you usually see are postings from guys desperate to find a female who is into WAM.

Well, it is not as hard as you might think. But, the first step is a very hard one to take. You have to ADMIT to a female that this is something you enjoy. And I'm not talking about a female that is already into WAM. Females who have never heard of wamming (and that is the majority of them) will be receptive to it.....providing that they are receptive to YOU first.

See, that's the mistake that virtually ALL guys make when they are talking to women online about WAM activities. Every other word out of their mouths...or in this case out of their keyboards...is about pies, mud, etc. Here's a novel concept -- try actually talking to these women first..not about WAM stuff, but about them...about you...about life...about sports...ANYTHING BUT WAM. Get to know them before you talk about anything WAM related. Many women who i have chatted with who knew nothing about WAM before have given me some wonderful ideas for role play situations and wamming in general.

Once they get to know you and trust you as a person...they will be a hundred times more receptive to the idea of WAM. Also, immediately get the idea of "woman as victim - woman as target" concept out of your head. Why would she want to participate in this with you if she wasn't going to be thought of as an equal partner with input as to what she would find fun as well. That's not to say in role play situations you can't do things that you both like....just make sure you BOTH like it.

I encounter guys who are jerks online all the time about WAM stuff. And if I, as a guy find it obnoxious, I can only imagine how a female perceives it.

For those of you on AOL...put it in your profile!!!!!! Why hide it? And yes, I know that some of you have wives and girlfriends that are on AOL as well who don't know about your interest, but those of you who can put it in...do it!!!

Look, for the most part we have a very harmless, benign and fun "interest." Discussing it with people who have never heard of it..especially on line is harmless. Chances are is that if they don't find it amusing and fun, they probably won't find much about you to like anyway. Just don't be afraid to talk about it. And don't be afraid explain why it's a turn on for you. Explain it so it makes sense. Just saying things like "hey, will you let me pie you" is a guaranteed road to nowhere.

Again, starting off online conversations with "would you like to do pie stuff with me" is just plain silly. I mean, would you do that with someone you met face to face? Of course not, you'd take time to get to know them first as a friend.

Make that your priority and you'll make some wonderful friendships as well as a WAM friend or two.